Come on more than the physical pain its the trauma they give by spreading the news in all direction ...
There was one psycho guy in our college who was very handsome and had extremely beautiful voice. He had a crush on a chick. He used to call her up and sing. He never used to speak a single word. He'd call her up, sing a song and then put the phone down. The girl went head over heels on this guy. She hinted a lot to this guy and wanted this guy to come and propose. So this girl finally arranged a meet with him in a lonely spot. In his first proposal, he says that he loves the girl a lot and will keep her like a queen not the way she was currently by her useless father. He also told her if wont marry him, he will acid on her face. This girl got totally psyched after that. Poor guy later died in a drug overdose in his bathtub like Jim Morrison. He was the 4th J. His name was Jagdeep.
....i guess you need more protection than that.....i am just wondering what if the girl kicks down there.....(it actually happened with a guy in my college @nagpur)